How to Find Asian Brides: Key Places, Tips, and What Makes Them Special

With 48 countries and 4.8 billion people, Asia is one of the most diverse regions in the world—and that’s why, when I see short guides that try to explain Asian dating or Asian brides, I always read them with a grain of salt. I believe that if you need a guide to cover all the details, it must be comprehensive and detailed. Like this guide—here, I’m going to tell you everything about Asian women, about how to date them, and about where to meet them.

EDITOR’S NOTE:“We didn’t just analyze the numbers—we spoke with real brides and their husbands to understand what works best. If you’re looking for a trustworthy way to meet women, we recommend checking out SakuraDate, NaomiDate and GoChatty—platforms that have proven to help people build meaningful relationships.”

Where to Find an Asian Bride

There are two main options available: you can meet them online or offline. The first option is more affordable and convenient, the second one is more fun, but it’s up to you to choose, of course. Let’s talk about these options.

Online 

The digital era has transformed the landscape of love and relationships, providing unprecedented access to potential partners from around the world. For those intrigued by the charm and values of Asian women, several avenues can lead you to the companion of your dreams.

• Mail Order Asian Brides Services: These services work by connecting men from the West with Asian women looking for marriage abroad. They facilitate communication, provide translation services if necessary, and can even help organize meetings. For those serious about finding an Asian bride, these services offer a more hands-on approach to matchmaking.

Offline

Offline dating can be stressful, and it’s definitely not as easy as meeting women online. However, it has its advantages too, such as being fun, entertaining, and having an incredibly positive impact on self-esteem. Let’s see where you can meet Asian women offline.

First, let’s talk about meeting them in the United States. If you’re in the US, you have 3 main options to choose from:

• The San Francisco Bay Area. Cities like Daly City, Fremont, and Sunnyvale have the largest Asian populations in the United States, with many young professionals in their 20s and 30s residing close to their tech jobs. In fact, California is your best choice if you’re into Asians because more than 6,000,000 Asian Americans live there. As for meeting them, there are no special places where single Asian women gather, of course. Hobby groups like hiking, rock climbing, and golf will work well, as will nightclubs. Additionally, Asian-oriented places, such as Chinatowns, restaurants, and markets, will work even better.
• Hawaii. Well, why not? Almost half of the Hawaii population is Asian (419,000 out of 987,000), so if you go there, it will technically still count as dating in the US—but with a huge dating pool of Asian women! And of course, Hawaiians are U.S. citizens, which makes it much easier to marry a woman from this island and bring her to your city (you won’t have to wait for your K-1/CR-1 visa and pay for it). Where to meet them in Hawaii? Literally everywhere! Beaches, nightclubs, social meetups, and hobby groups, Chinatown in Honolulu… Just remember that big cities are the way. You’ll have much higher chances in Honolulu or Hilo than in those small towns on the islands.
• Literally any American city with a high percentage of Asian-Americans, from New York and Los Angeles to Houston and Chicago. But remember that it only works if you’re involved in the community. There are clubs for Asian-related topics, there are clubs for different hobbies, there are events specific to other cultures, and there’s always a good old “meeting partners through friends”, so the more you’re involved, the higher the chances. I’d also recommend focusing on hobbies that are more popular among Asian Americans, such as golf, climbing, and other outdoor activities, as Asian Americans have the highest outdoor participation rate in the US.

A SIMPLE TIP FOR YOU: just Google your city and add “Asian community”—you’ll probably find something interesting. For example, in Denver, there is an Asian Community Climb event where you can meet many young and single Asian women. Or, say, the Colorado Dragon Boat Festival—they have those Dragon Boat festivals across the United States, not only in Colorado, of course.

Or, you can go to Asia. It’s almost impossible to choose from 48 countries and thousands of cities, but still, here’s the top list of the places where your chances of meeting an Asian bride will be the highest:

• Japan. There are Izakaya or Yokocho alleys in this country that host a lot of little and extremely cozy bars, there are incredibly romantic places in Tokyo (Ueno Park, Yoyogi) that become even more romantic during the cherry blossom season, there is Shibuya district in Tokyo where the nightlife is just awesome and where you can meet lots of local singles.
• Goa, India. Great beaches and full moon parties, perfect for meeting a romantic partner. Finding a local might be challenging, though, especially if you go there in November, December, or January (peak season). Goa is beautiful and pretty affordable. If you stay there for a long time, it will be even cheaper for you. They have a great nightlife with an Indian vibe, but that’s not all—there are also events where locals meet, such as the Silent Book Club, local volunteer groups, and art exhibitions in the central library, among others. Or, if you want something really interesting, go to the fish market and try to approach girls there. Approaching women while shopping is generally not the best idea, but when it comes to Goa and fish markets… Just try it and thank me later.
• The Philippines. It’s the most popular mail bride country, and local women do really like foreigners, but you still need to choose the right places to increase the chances. Thus, I highly recommend visiting Manila and Quezon City, as they are the largest cities in the country. In Manila, it’s malls like Robinsons and cocktail bars in Makati, where there are few to no tourists. In Quezon City, notable areas include Cubao Expo, the Maginhawa area, and, of course, Timog Avenue, which is home to numerous bars, restaurants, and very friendly locals.
• Vietnam. Local young women don’t usually spend a lot of time in bars, but you can still meet them there—just don’t focus on high-end ones like the bars in Landmark 81, visit something more affordable instead (cocktail bars). Walking streets like Nguyen Hue Boulevard might be a great choice, too, as well as Ta Hien Street, which is known as “the best beer and food street in Hanoi,” so it’s definitely worth a visit.
• Seoul, South Korea. Seoul is one of the best places in the world regarding nightlife, but it’s also quite expensive. The good news is that there are hundreds of great bars and clubs here. Start with clubs in Itaewon and Hongdae—there are lots of locals there who speak English, they’re usually very friendly there, and you’ll likely meet single women in these bars. They also have language exchange events in these districts, typically on Friday/Saturday. And you can simply approach them on the streets or in malls, of course—but only if you speak Korean (at least a bit). However, if they approach you in Seoul, they might be cult recruiters, so don’t be so excited if a Korean woman randomly approaches you on the street and asks for 5 minutes of your time.

At the end of the day, it’s all about putting yourself out there and having some fun with it. You never know—the right person might be just one random meetup or conversation away.

How to Get an Asian Bride or Husband

It’s easier than you think, really. Continue reading—you’ll find useful tips and ice-breakers here.

Online

Online dating is easy, convenient, and much more affordable than offline dating. Here’s how you do it:

• Registration. First, you’ll have to create a dating profile. On most websites, you’ll only need an email, name, and date of birth to sign up. Typically, no additional verification is required during registration. However, if a dating app has an ID verification feature, I recommend verifying your profile later, as verified profiles are generally more trusted and popular. I also recommend using a new email address for online dating, as all those notifications will quickly flood your inbox. 
• Setting your profile up. You’ll need the best photos, and you’ll need to answer all those questions about your personality and goals. You can skip all those steps and save yourself 3–5 minutes, but with an empty account, your reply rate will be very low, and you will probably be disappointed with online dating. 
• Chatting with women. Typically, it’s not free, but the best Asian dating apps, such as SakuraDate, offer free credits, so you won’t have to pay immediately. When it comes to chatting, I always recommend people to write specific messages, not generic ice-breakers (because the latter usually have a lower reply rate). But if you want to save time, you’ll find some of those ice-breakers in the following paragraphs.
• Building a long-distance relationship. Utilize all those premium features. Gift delivery, video calls, sending videos and photos, and so on—modern dating apps have a lot of premium tools to offer. All these tools will help you build a real, serious, and stable relationship with someone from another continent.
• Meeting in person. If you’re looking for a bride, you will have to meet her in person, not only because you’ll need to have at least some dates but also because USCIS requires it (you can’t apply for a K-1 visa if you have never met your bride in person). From my experience, it usually takes around 2–4 months for men to ask their foreign brides on a date, but this is not a rule to follow.

There’s no magic formula—just move step by step, stay real, and don’t stress too much about timelines. If it feels right, it usually is.

Dating Profile Tips

• Fill out all the information you can—about your personality, your perfect match, your hobbies, and so on. The more detailed your profile is, the more messages you’ll receive on top sites, such as SakuraDate.
• Your bio shouldn’t be boring. Make it interesting and catchy, share a fact about yourself, or write about your perfect relationships, keep it real and simple. 
• Add more photos. Having 1 profile photo is ok, but not good enough, I recommend uploading at least 5 pictures to make your profile look as detailed as possible. 
• No group photos, no old photos. Smiling photos work best, photos that show your hobbies, trips, and pets work pretty well, too
• Show your personality, be specific about something like your passion, your perfect date, a place you’ve traveled to, etc. 
• Do not use those “I’m not into…” lines. You’re not into games, ok, but you don’t need to be negative in your dating profile.

Conversation Starters

• Hi! Tell me about yourself. What made you smile today? 
• What do you think is the best show on Netflix right now? (Won’t work for Chinese women for obvious reasons)
• What is something people are surprised to learn about you?
• What do you think about the West and the Western people? What’s your favorite/least favorite thing about them?
• Would you ever move outside of your country? Where would you prefer to go?
• 你家乡有什么好吃的? (It’s Chinese for “what good food do you have in your home,” and it’s just perfect because the Chinese are very proud of their local traditions, and you’ll probably have a very detailed and long answer.)
• 最近何にはまっているの？ (Japanese for “what are your interests these days?”)
• Anong ginagawa mo sa bakanteng oras mo? (“What do you do in your free time?” in Tagalog)

Success Stories

Jacob and Haruka

“We first met on NaomiDate in 2020 when there were all those restrictions and lockdowns, and it was even worse in Tokyo than in Grand Rapids, where I live”, says Jacob. “We communicated online for 18 months or so, and it was fire, actually—I even sent her some gifts and flowers. When we first met in person, I was impressed by Japan, by Haruka, by her home and her parents, by literally everything and everyone. So I proposed right after our second date, and today, we’re finally here in Michigan, as husband and wife!”

George and Jasmine

Jasmine is 21 years old, a student from Manila, Philippines. George is a 45-year-old truck driver in Dallas. Where did they meet?

“Online, of course,” George says, smiling. “I went to the Philippines once, but it’s just tourism. I don’t think you can find a wife if you just go to the bars and nightclubs in Manila. Online dating is different. We met on SakuraDate, started chatting, and it all went so well we decided to meet in person in just a few weeks”, he says.

“George is a real knight, she conquered me! I heard that Westerners are kind and respectful, but I didn’t think it was 100% true”, adds Jasmine. She says that American men are real gentlemen—that’s why she said yes when George proposed to her. 

Asian Bride Price

First of all, online dating. You’ll need to pay for at least 1 month of chatting on a dating site—and here’s all you need to know about it:

• Most Asian dating apps today have a credit system. With credits, it’s you who decides how much to spend on a dating site.
• In most cases, men spend around 15 minutes per day chatting and send several (2-5) photos per month. 
• Typically, 1 minute of live chat costs around $0.4-$0.5 on most dating apps today, and sending a photo costs around $2-4.
• So you’ll probably need to pay from $180 to $225 for a month of chatting and from $4 to $20 for sending photos and videos. 

Now, offline dating. Let’s say you’re going to spend 1 week in your bride’s country. How much will it cost?

• First, the tickets. A round-trip to Korea and Japan will cost you $1,300-$1,500, a round trip to Southeast Asia will be slightly cheaper ($1,000), and a trip to India will be the cheapest ($700-$800).
• As for the hotel room, you’ll need to pay from $15 to $20 per day in Southeast Asia and from $30 to $60 per day in Japan and Korea. 
• You’ll probably need to pay for dates, too. If we’re talking at least 1 restaurant date, you’ll need to pay around $50-$100 for 2 meals in a fancy restaurant in Japan, around $10-$20 in India, and around $20-$40 in Southeast Asian restaurants.
• The K-1 visa fee is around $2,530.

The total cost can range from as low as $3,500 to $4,000 in Southeast Asia or India, to as high as $4,500 to $5,500 in Japan or Korea.

But money is not the main challenge. From what I read, saw, and heard, I can say with confidence that the main problem for those searching for an Asian bride is a complete absence of understanding regarding Asian dating customs and culture. A lot of men just want to date Asian girls like they date American girls, and of course, that’s not how it works.

Why Do Asian Women Become Mail Order Brides?

The phenomenon of mail order brides from Asia is fueled by various factors, including cultural, economic, and social motivations. Understanding these reasons is crucial to appreciating the choices of Asian women and fostering a respectful and supportive relationship. Economic challenges and the desire for a more stable future drive many Asian women to seek partners from the West. They envision creating a family in an environment that offers security and prosperity, something they might not find in their home countries. In many Asian cultures, there is significant pressure on women to marry at a young age. Those who find themselves single in their late 20s may face social stigma and consider international marriage a viable option. Additionally, some women are attracted to the values and lifestyles of Western societies, seeking a partner with whom they share more in common. At the heart of the mail order bride phenomenon is the universal desire for love and companionship. Asian women, like anyone else, seek a deep connection and a partner to share their life with. Despite the method of matchmaking, the aim is to find a loving, respectful, and understanding partner.

Below, I offer an insight into the pros and cons of marrying an Asian woman, the financial aspect involved, and some indispensable tips for nurturing a successful relationship with your Asian bride.

The Pros and Cons of Asian Women for Marriage

Pros:

• One of the most compelling aspects of marrying an Asian woman is the opportunity to immerse oneself in a rich, diverse culture. Whether it’s the festivities, traditions, or daily customs, there is always something new to explore.
• Generally speaking, Asian women place a high value on family and relationships. Commitment, respect for elders, and a strong sense of loyalty to their partner are deeply ingrained values.
• Many Asian countries have a strong emphasis on education, producing well-educated individuals. An Asian bride often values personal growth, making for a well-rounded and intelligent partner.

Cons:

• If your relationship begins online, as many international relationships do, the initial long-distance aspect can be challenging and requires commitment to maintain.
• While the cultural richness is a pro, it can also present challenges. Differences in language, tradition, and expectations can lead to misunderstandings without patience and effort to bridge these gaps.
• Unfortunately, Asian women often face stereotypes that can affect their relationships. It’s essential to approach your partner as an individual, free from the biases that society may impose.

Family, Culture, Religion

Asians are different. They have different values, different views, different traditions, and different customs. Here, I’m going to tell you about the most important ones—let’s start with some statistics that will allow you to understand them better. 

Asian Statistics

• Immigration is not a problem for them. Asians are to become the largest immigrant group in the US in the following years, and thousands of Asian women get married to American men every single year (more than 7,000 K-1 visas in 2023).
• Most Asian “mail order bride” countries are actually in Southeast Asia. The majority of these countries are poor, and this is an important driver for Southeast Asian women to become mail order brides.
• The mean age for first marriage in the Asia-Pacific region is 27 years for women, with the highest being 30 years in Korea.
• Southeast Asian countries are not that good at preventing violence against women—unfortunately, it still happens there, and it’s often not even considered a serious problem. Abuse, violence, and a lack of respect make thousands of local women search for a better life and a better romantic relationship abroad.
• Asia is not the best region in the world in terms of English proficiency, which is easy to understand—their languages are very different from Indo-European languages. Thus, only Singapore, the Philippines, and Malaysia have a high/very high English proficiency index, while countries such as Thailand, Kazakhstan, and Cambodia have a very low index.
• There’s a stereotype about Asian women who have a lot of children in their 20s, but it’s not true in 2025. First, the fertility rates in most Asian countries are not that high. And second, the average age of women at childbirth is constantly increasing in Asia, and today, it’s from 25 years (Thailand and Vietnam) to 32–33 years old (Singapore, Japan, Korea)

The Typical Household Family in Asia

• There are two main regions here: East Asia and Southeast Asia, and the differences between these regions are well known. For example, the fertility rate is around 1 child per woman in Korea and Japan, but typically 2 children per woman in Indonesia and Vietnam.
• Both East and Southeast Asian countries have strong family ties. Children in Asia are generally more obedient to their parents, they help their family members, and they often adhere to traditional values and practices. They typically share the well-known concept of a joint, big family, where they eat together, discuss things together, and overcome challenges together. This certainly has something to do with the fact that most Asian cultures are collectivist rather than individualist.
• The requirement of respect from children towards their parents is a core value in Chinese, Korean, and Japanese families. In Southeast Asian American families, for example, they also consider the children’s duty to their parents and the importance of obeying them as one of the core family values.
• Another example of the importance of the family to Asians is the prevalence of single-parent households. Thus, the percentage of single-parent households in these countries ranges from 6-7% (Singapore, Indonesia, Japan) to 11-12% (New Zealand, Mongolia, Thailand), while in the United States, it accounts for 29% of all households. India, Sri Lanka, and Vietnam (South and Southeast Asian countries) are also among the top 3 countries in the world with the lowest divorce rates.

Religion

• Most Asian bride countries are Confucian countries (China, Japan, Korea, and Vietnam). Confucianism is a philosophy built upon a set of principles, not a religion, but it is very important to locals, and, of course, it influences family values. Thus, there is a strong family hierarchy in which the elders are above the children, leading to strong family ties and a duty for children to care for their parents and grandparents.
• In Japan, there is Shintoism, and at its core, the main idea is about living in harmony with nature and with others, including family members. In Shintoism, family roles are traditionally defined: men are the breadwinners and women are responsible for household tasks, childrearing, and other domestic duties. However, it’s not as if modern Japanese women have extremely traditional family values, of course. 
• Some Southeast Asian countries, such as the Philippines, are predominantly Catholic, with traditional Catholic family values. The family is seen as a sign of God’s love, and obedience and respect are considered essential for a healthy family life. Family members are expected to support and forgive one another.
• And of course, I can’t forget about India, where they have Hinduism. In Hinduism, the family is characterized by interdependence among its members, with care for the elderly and obedience being key values. Such virtues as loyalty and unity are also key pillars of the family.

Is Gay Marriage Illegal in Asia

Same-sex marriages are legalized in Australia, New Zealand, and Thailand. It’s also legal in Israel, which is located in Western Asia. Such marriages are banned only in Kyrgyzstan and Mongolia, and all the other Asian countries do not recognize same-sex marriages or civil unions. There are countries where they have limited recognition (like in China, where the same-sex partner of a foreigner who has a residency in China can get a dependent residency status), but that’s all.

Asian Dating Culture

Want to learn more about how to date Asian women and how to talk to them? Continue reading.

What Are Asian Women Like

• They are traditional, and their views on gender roles are pretty conservative. 
• They are gorgeous—beauty is in the eye of the beholder, yes, but Asian women are very physically attractive, they are stylish, and they have perfect makeup skills. 
• They make loyal wives and girlfriends because loyalty is one of the key values in most Asian cultures.
• They are modest and calm. Politeness, for example, is one of the core values of Japanese culture. Modesty and restraint are also highly valued in Vietnam and other Confucianist cultures.

How to Date an Asian Woman

• Be as romantic as possible, don’t forget about anniversaries, buy small gifts, and give surprises
• Learn the language of your partner, she’ll love and appreciate it 
• Be chivalrous and slightly old-fashioned 
• Chat with her every day and don’t ghost (it’s especially true for East Asian women) 
• Show respect to her 
• Show respect to her parents and buy them a present before your first meeting 
• Discuss everything and be straightforward, that’s the only way it works in international relationships

How to Talk to Asian Women

• If you approach them offline, be extra polite and respectful 
• Do not be stereotypical, it can be offensive 
• Be honest with them, do not try to play games, especially with Southeast Asian girls who are pretty direct 
• Do not talk about sex on the very first date, they are not used to it 

Dating Customs

• In China, they usually do not express love loudly. In their culture, it is expressed indirectly through gestures and gifts.
• In Japan, a woman might invite you for a date at home. This is not what you think it is; they actually have cozy home dates quite often.
• In the Philippines, they’ll expect gifts and romantic gestures—not because they’re gold-diggers, no, it’s just how their dating culture works.
• In Thailand, they also appreciate politeness and restraint, exactly like Chinese women.

Is Kissing in Public Ok in Asia?

Well, they won’t arrest you, but in most Asian countries, kissing on the street is considered improper. However, this tradition is slowly fading away, and young Asians don’t have any problems with kissing their partners in big cities (not in rural areas, though). But it’s just kissing, not making out, of course.

How to Flirt with Asian Girls?

• Ang ganda mo naman – you’re very beautiful (Tagalot)
• 你的眼睛很美。(nǐ de yǎn jing hěn měi) – your eyes are very beautiful (Mandarin)
• मैं तुम्हें अपना बनाना चाहता हूँ।(main Tumhen apaNaa baNaaNaa caahaTaa huun.) – I want you to be mine (Hindi)
• คุณคือทุกสิ่งในชีวิตของฉัน (Khun keu took sing nai chee-wit kong chan) – you are my everything (Thai)
• 정말 친절하네요! (jeongmal chinjeolhaneyo!) – you’re so sweet! (Korean) 

Who Pays for the Date

It’s a man who pays for a date in Asia. It doesn’t matter if it’s a traditional Southeast Asian country or one of those Westernized countries like Korea and Japan; you should still pay for it.

Asian Marriage and Wedding Traditions

• Asian families often exchange gifts before the wedding. It’s a symbol of unity, with gifts ranging from $100 in cash to a brand-new car.
• Elders should always attend the ceremony—their approval is highly valued and a sign of respect.
• In China, a groom typically presents a gift to the bride’s parents, who in turn return half of it to signify their acceptance of the proposal.
• The wedding date is extremely important and is often discussed with fortune-tellers.
• In Japan, Shinto weddings are often held, featuring paper decorations, special ceremonies (such as San San Kudo), and rice cups.
• Of course, there’s always rice—in the Philippines, for example, newlyweds often go through one or two rice showers.
• Indian weddings have a lot of red color with gold accents, can last for 3 days, and often have huge guest lists.

Asian Dating Scams

In 2021, people lost $547 million to romance scams. In 2024, the amount exceeded $820 million, so the problem is serious, and it is becoming increasingly severe every year. There are two main scam types: the first one is when a girl on a dating site asks you for money, and the second one is when a girl on a dating site steals your credit card information. There are also blackmail and phishing links, but they are not as common.

Here are the main safety rules:

• Never send money to someone you’ve never met in person.
• Do not enter your credit card/bank account/PayPal information on a website you got from a “mail order bride.”
• Do not send videos or photos that can damage your reputation if published.
• Use only trusted dating apps with a good reputation, such as SakuraDate.
• If you click on a link and it asks for your password, do not enter it.

You don’t have to be scared—just stay sharp and trust your instincts. A little caution goes a long way when you’re looking for something real.

Final Thought

Asians are different. They are unique, they are traditional, they love foreign men, and they make great wives. Building a successful relationship with them might be challenging because of the distance, but it’s 100% worth the effort.